How to Use Facebook to Land a Date

facebook heartA new Dating in a Digital Age survey from Your Tango found that 63% of singles are using online dating sites to find a serious relationship.

Of those surveyed, 95% said they have used Facebook to find a date. This number is enormous and does give hope to singles that cyber love is truly a way of everyday life.

So how do you make sure you’re putting your best digital foot forward?

Let’s start with critiquing  your Facebook profile.

Your Facebook Relationship Status

Think you’re too shy to let someone know you’re single? Think again. Not posting you’re relationship status as “Single” or “Divorced” doesn’t mean you’re desperate. It means you’re stating your intention that you’re available for a relationship. On Facebook Love Stories, you’ll read the heartwarming story of Taunia and Jake. When Taunia changed her relationship status to “Divorced,” she became reunited with a former boyfriend from twenty years earlier. The two got engaged at the Eiffel Tower in Paris and will be getting married this summer. Is that worth the free advertising on Facebook if you want to find love? We think so.

Select the Right Photos

Putting the best primary photo you can possibly find is key to your success in finding love on Facebook. Posting a photo with your BFF is off-limits. One with your cousin is also off the list if you’re single. It can send confusing messages and you won’t know for sure that someone is single.  Posting no photo at all is as obsolete as the fax machine or VHS player. Remember, your photo will appear in a search, even to non-friends who would like to connect with you.
The YourTango study confirmed this as they found that two-thirds would not go on a date with someone whose profile contains no photos.

Become a Facebook Flirt

If you have a digital crush on someone, spend time occasionally “liking” and commenting on his or her posts. Don’t overdo it, as you don’t want to come across as an obsessed cyber-stalking type. It’s digital foreplay and it’s amazing how it really works.

Be Careful What You Post

Posting photos and party shots over-and-over again might not send the message that you’re relationship material. Make sure your posts are varied and not all about you. Ask engaging questions in your posts and thank those who comment. Even if he or she won’t be the love of your life, think about their extended social network. Who doesn’t want to play digital matchmaker?
Are you flirting on Facebook? Do you think Facebook could be the world’s largest dating site?  You’re comments are welcome.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and Facebook Love Stories. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more digital dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like us at Facebook Love Stories. 

Lauren and Daniel

Facebook Love Story - Lauren and DanielMeet Lauren and Daniel who found love with the help of Facebook.

While Lauren and Daniel met in person for the first time offline at an Art Walk in downtown Jacksonville, Florida, they didn’t really talk or get to know each other at that time. A few days later, the two became friends on Facebook,  since they both had several friends in common.

For several months, Daniel would visit Lauren’s Facebook profile and “like” several of her status updates. It wasn’t until Lauren asked an open question to her friends about social media for work purposes,  that Daniel responded to her status update.

Daniel lent a helping digital hand and commented frequently to Lauren’s work questions, until finally after many back-and-forth messages,  Lauren agreed to meet Daniel for coffee.

Their coffee date was memorable for the two of them. Coffee quickly turned into drinks and dinner.

The two have been attached at the hip ever since and always say thank you to Facebook for making them a happy couple!

Congratulations to Lauren and David who took their offline encounter into an online chat and IRL romance.

Do you have a Facebook Love Story to share?

Submit Your Facebook Love Story celebrates those who have found love on the world’s largest social network. If you know someone who met on Facebook, invite them to share their Facebook Love Story. For more Facebook dating advice and stories, follow @FBLoveStories on Twitter.